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Originally Posted by stone  I still wonder about amends, doesn't that normally come from the 4th column? |
Sure, it can. But it can also come from our 3rd column, especially if we don't write a 4th column. If I'm not mistaken, the example in the book shows a three column inventory, then on page 80 (1st ed) it says, "When we saw our faults we listed them. We placed them before us in black and white. We admitted our wrongs honestly and were willing to set these matters straight."
They just put self esteem down, then some get Sex relations, security, personal relationship, they even list Pride. Pride would make 7 things, we do six. But in any case, we expand our 3rd column out.. with words like "I am (self esteem)", "I need (security)", "I want (ambition)", "Sex relations (opposite sex is what we do... so if you're a man, you write how a woman should act)", "personal relations (how a man should act)", "pocketbook (what is money)"...
So then they put fear aside the "instinct". We don't. We write a whole other inventory for fear, then sex.
But we don't list our faults right then and there. We go and 5th step it and just read those 3 columns. I have a pen handy too. Sometimes the guy who is hearing my 5th step points something out. Sometimes, if I see it, we talk about it and then I write it down. I can always return to the list later too... like during my 8th step list. Maybe I've missed something until I do 6 and 7.
Now we're talking about steps.
This is good.