Congratulations on your 46 days!
Can't help with your "problem," because I'm not an A -- but I can tell you that great sex does not depend on using (and true intimacy -- sexual or otherwise -- definitely depends on
not using!) I'm sure you have lots of great stuff in store for you if you keep walking the path you're on.
There's a woman on SR here who seems like she might be perfect for you to "talk" to. There is a post of hers (post #3) in this thread:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post2247988 (Where is his sex drive?)
If she doesn't see your thread here, maybe you could PM her -- she usually has good stuff to say.
Welcome to SR and the Women's Forum!
freya