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Originally Posted by unholy_mess  I started seeing a new therapist...and it's like trying to reopen everything all again. Has anyone else ever gone through this (I'm sure you have)? How do you deal with having to re-open all the wounds, yet again? How do you cope with the difficulty and not let the pain of trying to reopen yourself interfere with the actual opening of yourself? |
I JUST experienced this! Saturday. I met with my new therapist. It was disturbing and cleansing, I think. I was asked questions I did not expect and ended up crying a bit. I can only think that the more we tell our stories, the less power they have. On the flip side, if you're inclined to give the stories power, then the more you tell them, the more power they'll have.
If you can find empathy for yourself, that is key. Most of us do the best that we know how at any given time. That's it.
"How do you cope with the difficulty and not let the pain of trying to reopen yourself interfere with the actual opening of yourself?" I just figure that my story is many people's story, in some way or another, and the more I share, the less burden I will have to carry. I have to have faith in that and know that they (therapists) have the skills that can help me overcome. And, sometimes just talking about it gives me the skills I need. Most of us have "something."
Plus, a good therapist already has hair on her chest. So, not being ashamed and just owning it really helps. I know that takes a while to do, I've been in therapy for a while. Things happen the way they are supposed to, right? We are placed where we need to be to learn the lessons we need to learn, and that's it.
Not sure how much this will help you, but I had to respond because I just experienced this. I was so worried about it before the meeting but now I am re-inspired and have faith that it's all gonna be okay. I wish that for you, too.