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Thanks Cindi and Liesagain. Seems like this place has gotten a bit dead...not much activity it seems.

BP Connection:

I had an interesting day yesterday that ended with me going out to the VFW bar where my dad is doing karaoke on saturday nights again.

Nearby was a family of 2 daughters and a mom getting smashed. It was quite entertaining. When i was at the bar, i noticed a dragonfly tattoo on the oldest girl's foot and asked how bad it hurt. She immediately whipped out her boob and said, "not as much as this (referring to the nipple ring)."

She then went over to a nearby table full of people who had noticed and started flashing them. pictures were being taken...and the 2 female bartenders were shaking their heads in disbelief of the drunkenness..

I leaned in and said, "Man! All i did was ask her about the tattoo on her foot!!"

Anyway, because of the small venue, I ended up being introduced to her younger sister and their mom.

The BP connection is that mom (very drunk) kept telling me OVER and OVER how pretty i was....so much so i had to start wondering if she was bi. Then she kept trying to get me to go dance, then tried for 30 minutes to hook me up with my dad's good friend (who's 25 years my elder and who also dated my roommate, lol).

After she wouldn't stop trying to get me to go dance with someone, i finally told her I just don't like to dance anymore b/c of anxiety issues.

She IMMEDIATELY asked, "are you bipolar?"

I was stunned at why she would connect the two, but I said yes and she said so is her youngest daughter and she also has anxiety issues and doesn't like touching people (however that did NOT appear to be the case since the girl was dancing with girls/guys/karoke singers on stage/lapdancing on old guys in a group of other girls....etc.

The girl mentioned later to me, however, that she has a lot of anxiety issues when not drunk.

Anyway...point is....i've never heard of any kind of connection btwn anxiety dealing with touching people (like dancing and hugging) and being bipolar. I don't think it is a regular bipolar trait....as i've never heard of it...but still....i thought it was interesting and i may want to do a little research into it later.

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eventually, the young girl dragged me onto the dance floor and had me two-step and swing dance with her....the entire time, lol, telling me how a lesbian taught her to dance and taught her how to just love herself and not give a flying f*** what anyone else thinks.

It was almost like i was in therapy for the evening....as she didn't even know me and kept telling me i need to love myself before anyone else can ever truely love me, etc. The girl is only 23.

Anyway, we have some other things in common (besides the bipolar and self-esteem issues, like both being in love with black guys and having a history of codependency, etc.) and so she wanted my number and gave me hers.

I learned about the codie issues from her mom who said her daughter is still in love with a guy from 2 years ago who is gay, but who's child she ended up pregnant with and that she just wants to fix everyone.

now....lately i have been trying to see ways that I might could start believing in a higher power again...and i think i might could be a mentor to this girl...as for the bipolar and codie issues. Now, i realize this is a codie thing for me to think, but it just feels like i was suppose to go there last night and meet this crazy family of drunks. LOL

For whatever reason, the mom decided she likes me so much she kept saying she wants to adopt me and b/c the youngest girl felt a connection with me because of the things we have in common...i think i might be able to make a small difference in her life.

At the very least, i want to introduce her to Alanon....and since she is bipolar I....I would like to help try to explain to her why staying on her meds is soooooo important.

As far as her bp goes....she is definitely young...with a difficult road ahead. And anyway that i might can help lead her toward a less difficult path with the illness(es) then that would make me feel I've been of some help to someone in this world.

Jenna