A friend of mine says the 12 steps are spiritual growth for a white male society, lol. It was written by a white male for a start.
The sometimes strident language of the big book and the emphasis on "rules" (or very structured guidelines), rooting out of defects (being hard on ourselves) and self-discipline are "male" attributes she says, and I can see what she means. I don't like the macho-ness some people approach the program with.
My point is...I agree with what you are saying Steve....I like this part...
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Often we are inclined to give, give, and give without ever asking anything in return. We may think that this is a sign of generosity or even heroism ( and how I am guilty of this!). But it might be little else than a proud attitude that says: "I don't need help from others. I only want to give." When we keep giving without receiving we burn out quickly. Only when we pay careful attention to our own physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual needs can we be, and remain, joyful givers
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