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Originally Posted by 123bubblegum123  First, thanks for posting about it. I think it's fantastic you are staying sober through it all. My only advice for you would be to focus on your own sobriety & recovery, and avoid getting lost in his. It's his life, and if he wants you in it, he'll need to stay sober. For me, If I'm dating someone I let them know "i'm sober, and i'd appreciate you not trying to interfere with that." I also would feel very betrayed if my boyfriend relapsed - i'd actually see it as the equivalent of him cheating on me, even though it's inappropriate to think that way.
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Thanks for the reply -- yeah, there's no chance I'm going to drink or not stay sober. That's not even an option... and you're right about it feeling as though I've been cheated on. He doesn't at all try to interfere with my recovery -- we actually met through mutual sober friends -- and for that I'm grateful. It's just that whole trust thing... I'm not sure how that comes back, except for time and patience. And, of course, being alcoholic myself, I want everything now!
Thanks again,
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