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123bubblegum123 · 07-10-2009, 02:53 PM

Hey

First, thanks for posting about it. I think it's fantastic you are staying sober through it all. My only advice for you would be to focus on your own sobriety & recovery, and avoid getting lost in his. It's his life, and if he wants you in it, he'll need to stay sober. For me, If I'm dating someone I let them know "i'm sober, and i'd appreciate you not trying to interfere with that." I also would feel very betrayed if my boyfriend relapsed - i'd actually see it as the equivalent of him cheating on me, even though it's inappropriate to think that way.

You are golden and deserve THE BEST. You need to also remember that there are plenty of amazing men out there who wouldn't choose getting high over being with you. The other way to look at it is he really needs support right now, and if you're spiritually and mentally strong enough to handle it, then by all means stick around. But anything that could jeapardize your sobriety should be avoided at all costs.

Please stay safe and stay in touch,
Rach

07-10-2009, 02:53 PM	#2 (permalink)
123bubblegum123 it's a movie, you're the star Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 356	Hey First, thanks for posting about it. I think it's fantastic you are staying sober through it all. My only advice for you would be to focus on your own sobriety & recovery, and avoid getting lost in his. It's his life, and if he wants you in it, he'll need to stay sober. For me, If I'm dating someone I let them know "i'm sober, and i'd appreciate you not trying to interfere with that." I also would feel very betrayed if my boyfriend relapsed - i'd actually see it as the equivalent of him cheating on me, even though it's inappropriate to think that way. You are golden and deserve THE BEST. You need to also remember that there are plenty of amazing men out there who wouldn't choose getting high over being with you. The other way to look at it is he really needs support right now, and if you're spiritually and mentally strong enough to handle it, then by all means stick around. But anything that could jeapardize your sobriety should be avoided at all costs. Please stay safe and stay in touch, Rach __________________ i'm just a little girl with big dreams.