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rmm I went through a similar situation. AH went to someone who told him he had impulse control problems not alcohol and drug addiction problems. He told AH that he is too easily swayed by peer pressure. I was floored--the man was 40 years old, not 14. When he did go to treatment they flat out told him the other therapist was clueless and should not be counseling people about alcohol and drug addiction. But, AH still likes to return to what that original therapist told him. Makes him feel much more comfortable.

He is going to a therapist now too. I have no idea if he is telling the truth--but it does seem a senseless waste of money to go somewhere to get help and lie--which I know he is because if he is telling me he is not drinking he is probably telling the therapist that too. A few years ago I would have wanted to call the therapist and say--he, do you know he's pulling the wool over your eyes. But their relationship is just that and I butt out.

You are right--badgering him will do you no good.

I agree--go see your own counselor and do what you need to do for you. Also, go to AlAnon. It has helped me. I don't go as often as I should but when I do go it helps me not question myself so much.