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I'm sorry about your friend. Let me introduce you to the three C's of Codependency:
You didn't Cause this.
You can't Control it.
You cannot Cure it.
Get the book "Codependent No More" by Melodie Beatty. It'll help you understand your urges to help, and how they can actually hold up your friends' recovery. Are you a man or a woman? Do you have some romantic feelings for this addict?
Your friend needs to reach her bottom. The place where she feels she cannot take her disease or the consequences of using anymore. Then and only then will she be ready for treatment, and it needs to come from other addicts, preferable of her own gender. She can go to NA at any time. We have a ton of meetings in Vegas, all over the city and surrounding area. I bet that she already knows it, and knows that we are free to her and that she can call our hotline and someone will come and help her. For free. Anytime she is ready.
All you will do by scooping her up will be prolonging her hitting a bottom. She will find a way to use in the hotel if she isn't ready to quit on her own. I've seen addicts have stuff thrown in the bathroom window, delivered under the door, set up under the bed, brought in with a maid, stashed in the luggage, stashed in their body cavities, snuck out while you sleep, secreted in eye drop bottles, etc...etc...etc.. and worse, if she can't figure out how to get drugs into the room, she'll just steal your wallet and take off when the cravings hit. And then you'll be out of money and you won't hear from her for a while.
When she is ready, she will get help. Not before. Don't send her money, don't go get her and keep her in a hotel. Let her go. And just pray. Get to an alanon/naranon meeting if you can. And hit the friends and family forum here for some people who've been through this.
Love,
KJ
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