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Old 07-05-2009, 12:09 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Making amends

This is not a fun step but a necessary one for me. I have been neglecting a friend for the last year and it was a friend I had made a honor bound oath to watch over. You see Will was in a mens shelter with me when I was first feeling the pangs of unmanagability rear its head in my life. We befriended each other but his gait was begining to get imbalanced. Then he started using a cane after he face planted several times and broke his only pair of glasses. Over the next two years I watched him go from a bright intelligent man to a invalid lying in a HUD apartment unable to move. He had to wait there for a year before the city got him a scooter. Instead of seeing all the emotional turmoil he was going thru I used his place as a nice drinking spot and never really did anything for him.
That all changed as I have been to his home the last two days. The first day I just said Hi and left. Today we saw the new Star Trek and I cleaned his filthy apartment a bit and organized his DVD collection in a wall rack instead of lying all over his apartment. I was right, I realized after spending time with him that we don't really get along that well. I did use him. So I will until I see a consitent change in his quality of life go over there at least twice a week and help him with his environment. I'm not sure how long I will do this before I can mark it off. Maybe I'll just do it until I feel pain. Got any suggestions?
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