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Of course you're angry, when a promise isn't kept, we're lied to, our boundaries are stretched too thin, and we are made to blame for every decision someone else makes and later regrets, yeah it makes us stark raving nuclear kind of mad.
How skilled they are at making every damn stinky thing go their way and still come out smelling of roses.
Of course he made a promise to you to stop drinking to get you back. That was your condition, and he had no other way to get what he wanted. Now he's peeved because he's looking to get out of that c**p and get back to his drinking, which was the plan all along. He just couldn't come up with anything better but to announce that three weeks is plenty enough time to satisfy you. Oh, really? When that didn't work, he went for the pick-a-fight technique. He got you hopped up and pissed off. Then you go off the deep end and leave him (from his perspective), and he gets to be the victim in this case, plus he gets a perfect excuse right there to go get drunk because his woman just wigged out again and left him for no good reason (again, his perspective), since after all three weeks is more than enough time to get over your issues with his drinking, right? I imagine he'll get a few pity beers from his friends served up over this.
You see, I know this deal. I've lived it and bought the same c**p you did. But like you....I'm not buying it any more.
You've done the right thing leaving. Don't set a boundary you can't commit to, and girl, you've committed to you...I'm damn proud of you!!!
You've also gone no contact and cut off his access to you. We both know after he's had his little relapse and is living in his hangover, he'll be looking for some TLC again and will start thinking about how he can get himself out of the doghouse. OR...he'll still be cheesed that no one's around to blame and hate on for driving him to drink again when his sober life was going so well and he'll be dialing your number.
Good for you in getting that shut down before it even has a chance to get started!
This anger will pass, but for right now get it out anyway you safely can. Keep posting, get busy with exercise or dancing in your underwear to some hot tunes, or fire off a few firecrackers this evening in the name of YOUR INDEPENDENCE DAY!
I wish you the best.
Alice
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