[mattcake79]

Hi Cloud

I can relate to what you're experiencing. My best friend - a girl - used to tell me stuff like that all the time. When I came out to her, she was only slightly surprised, and she told me that she kind of suspected it - let's face it, most girls don't "flirt" with guys by telling them they want to marry them, lol. We're very good friends, and we often discuss how right we'd be for each other if I were straight. But it's pretty clear to both of us that it's not going to happen, for obvious reasons.

Having said that, I do think that it's possible to identify and feel 100% gay, and still feel attracted to the opposite sex in a non-sexual way. I know of openly gay men who chose to pair up with women they loved, who were aware of the situation but decided that they could handle it. Of course, the whole "Will and Grace" thing doesn't usually work out well in reality.

Also... the fact that you've yet to find a man who attracts you in a loving -as well as physical- way is not unheard of . That situation isn't exclusive to the GLBT community, yanno.. Many of us are still looking for someone who can satisfy both our emotional and physical needs.

I think that honesty is very important here. It's challenging, but it's also very rewarding and worthwhile.
Good luck with your friend =) Keep us posted!

PS. Being gay is only a problem if you turn it into one. Being confused at the moment doesn't make you a bad person either.The confusion will probably clear up, as long as you're true to yourself