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I did this. I even posted it on this board if you can find it. It empowered me for a short time, but I'm not sure I believed all that I was typing until just recently. Sending it off makes you feel good, but eventually the anger and frustration will just come back to you. Please don't right it until you are absolutely sure you believe it all. At that point, yes you should. I wish I would have waited to send it to him until I was sure what I did was the right thing. I made myself look like a fool by not backing it up right away.
On another note, I loved your phone conversation with him. It actually made me laugh and feel a bit better. I loved that you said you would accept he was a drinker, but would not accept being a part of it. Bravo! I remember a specific time when my XABF wanted me to buy him beer. I had already told him I would have no part in it. Then he said to me, I guess I will just have to sit here and be miserable because you wouldn't buy it for me. He then hung up on me. So what did I do? I bought him the f**king beer. If I had HALF the strength you have right now, I might not be in this situation now. I should have gotten out a long time ago.
Write your letter. Write lots of them. But only send it when your ready to back it up and live for yourself. I don't know if this is the best advice as I'm still new to all this, but that was my experience.
Sarah.
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