SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information - View Single Post

jerect · 07-02-2009, 07:18 PM

I really don't have any advice for you but I will tell you what has worked for me..

I turned the focus on myself and off of my addict.. it has made a world of a difference.

I know you said that you went to alanon and hated it but consider giving it another shot, maybe try to find a different meeting and finding a different prespective.. I did not like alanon at first.. in fact I was so angry that I had to go because I was not the one with the problem my husband was.. but after attending for awhile and working the steps I realized that yes indeed I was part of the problem.. and while I coulden't fix or change my AH I could fix and change myself and thats what I'm doing..

I'm sorry you are in such turmoil.. like I said I don't really have a lot of advice but maybe someone else on here will..

good luck.

07-02-2009, 07:18 PM	#2 (permalink)
jerect Restoring myself to sanity Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 668 Blog Entries: 2	I really don't have any advice for you but I will tell you what has worked for me.. I turned the focus on myself and off of my addict.. it has made a world of a difference. I know you said that you went to alanon and hated it but consider giving it another shot, maybe try to find a different meeting and finding a different prespective.. I did not like alanon at first.. in fact I was so angry that I had to go because I was not the one with the problem my husband was.. but after attending for awhile and working the steps I realized that yes indeed I was part of the problem.. and while I coulden't fix or change my AH I could fix and change myself and thats what I'm doing.. I'm sorry you are in such turmoil.. like I said I don't really have a lot of advice but maybe someone else on here will.. good luck.