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what do you want from him? do you want him to change? does SABF= substance abuser bf? anyhow, having dated for way too long, i have realized that ppl don;t change that much, so you have to take them as they are. if you don;t like who he is or what he is doing or that this is repeated behavior where you are disrespected all the time....you may have to cut your losses.
if he is loaded or drunk or whatever, obviously now is not the time to talk. unpulug the phone, and have a nice quiet evening to yourself. talk when he is reasonable and rational and sober. if you explain your position/why he is hurting you/etc. and ask him not to lie to you,...and he continues the behavior, i would leave. but, that is me. i need to be in a relationship based on mutual respect and trust. if those are not present, then i am just in a hurtful situation, which is not acceptable.
good luck love!
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