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sojourner · 07-01-2009, 05:37 AM

I was raised in a home with a father addicted to alcohol. When i married a man who i later learned was addicted to cocaine, i was absolutely derailed by the depth of immorality that i had to deal with on a daily basis. I then realized how my father was able to provide for his family and provide a level of stability compared to what i lived with in husband's cocaine addiction. It took a good 2 years after he left the home to fully recover from the shock of it all.

I pray for the sober parent with dependent children who thinks they have it together enough to stay with an active addict, who thinks that their "good parenting" can neutralize the effect of the active addict on those children. I have yet to see that turn out like that sober parent thought it would. And i'm old enough now to be able to see the fruits of people's decisions.

When I decided to raise my children apart from active addiction, it was a scary, scary step. I had 3 boys under the age of 5, and my job skills were such that i could not make enough money to support all of us. But God is good and faithful. And my 3 sons (even the one who is now struggling with drugs) have awesome memories of their younger years. They realize as young adults how they have been spared the nightmare that could have been had I not removed them and me from active addiction.

Thanks for putting that article on.

07-01-2009, 05:37 AM	#4 (permalink)
sojourner Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Michigan Posts: 349	I was raised in a home with a father addicted to alcohol. When i married a man who i later learned was addicted to cocaine, i was absolutely derailed by the depth of immorality that i had to deal with on a daily basis. I then realized how my father was able to provide for his family and provide a level of stability compared to what i lived with in husband's cocaine addiction. It took a good 2 years after he left the home to fully recover from the shock of it all. I pray for the sober parent with dependent children who thinks they have it together enough to stay with an active addict, who thinks that their "good parenting" can neutralize the effect of the active addict on those children. I have yet to see that turn out like that sober parent thought it would. And i'm old enough now to be able to see the fruits of people's decisions. When I decided to raise my children apart from active addiction, it was a scary, scary step. I had 3 boys under the age of 5, and my job skills were such that i could not make enough money to support all of us. But God is good and faithful. And my 3 sons (even the one who is now struggling with drugs) have awesome memories of their younger years. They realize as young adults how they have been spared the nightmare that could have been had I not removed them and me from active addiction. Thanks for putting that article on.