I seem to derive a lot of benefit from using 12th Tradition as a guide for anonymity. "we of Alcoholics Anonymous believe that the principle of anonymity has an immense spiritual significance...It reminds us that we are to actually practice a genuine humility."
When I think of anonymity as a spiritual principle, reminding me that in my alcoholism, I am undistinguished from others who suffer, that I am sick like them, but have been shown a way out through a spiritual awakening, the questions about what to say and who to say it to, kind of answer themselves.