[freya]

You should not talk to his sponsor; that qualifies as serious control behavior as well as triangulation and manipulation....and because it does, it is also a good sign that you should talk to your own sponsor. If you do not have sponsor, then all of the above is a good sign that you should get one.

And why are you rushing to type his stuff anyway? Poor planning -- or laziness or apathy or what-the-h*ll-ever-his-problem is -- cannot constitute a crisis for you -- unless, of course, you choose to let it.

Figure out what you can do comfortably in what time period and with what notice. Tell him that it is stresing you out to have to so a rush jobs at the last minute. Tell him exaclty how much you are willing to do in what time frame and tell him how much notice you need. Tell him that, if he gets you what you need to do within the parameters of what you have determined you can do comfortably, then you'll be glad to do it. If he can't get it to you within the parameters you set, tell him he'll have to find someone else.

Tell him this simply and without upset or blame -- simple statements of fact. These are your parameters -- your boundaries -- they are not up for discussion. If he wants to argue about it or whine about it or cry about it or feel like you are being mean to him or do the poor-me-poor-me-pour-me-a-drink thing about it, that is his choice....It is also his problem, not yours. You are not responsible for what he does with it or about; nor are you responsible for his feelings. It is highly advisable not to allow him to draw you into any discussion or drama around it. You say what you have to say and that's that.

Enforce what you tell him -- with zero tolerance for non-compliance on his part. But enforce it calmy and without debate or protracted discussion.

If you take care of yourself in this manner, the chances are that any resentment you have will begin to ease-up -- because, after all, if you do not allow him to use and isrespect you, you won't have any reason to be resentful anyways.

freya