Clay,
I think what the poster above me said was spot on. In order for me to feel comfortable around other people, I have to have personal things in common with them. I would assume there to be some type of online accessible place for people who either have intimacy issues, voluntarily chose to remain virgins, or just haven't found the right person to talk and possibly even hang out and become friends exists.
Although I am not a virgin, and haven't been for a while now, over the past 8 or 9 months I stopped really putting myself out there to guys. I wanted to take time for myself without having to hook up with people and wake up feeling used or lonlier than before. I've always been a naturally monogomous person, which is challenging in a college setting. But, alas, even when I was in a "committed" relationship with a man, that commitment was hardly ever mutual or taken seriously, and it really burned my ability to trust and feel wanted in an intimate way.
Although I might be on the opposite end of you, I can relate to wanting a real intimate bond with someone. For now though, to avoid settling for strippers or other non-interpersonal sexual interactions, maybe try to focus on forming actual emotional bonds with other people. You'd be surprised how fantastic and rewarding relationships like that can be, be them friendships or love affairs. And take the physical aspect slowly, as you don't want to rush someone and you, yourself, should not be rushed. Sex is a big deal, despite what MTV and pop culture want us to believe
Stay safe,
Rach