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In my experience with meetings, i have yet to meet a gay man, but i've met about 4 maybe 5 lesbians (i'm not sure about the 5th, i'm just guessing lol). It seems like it'll be less of a problem coming out as a gay woman, then coming out as a gay man.
I always wanted to come out when i was going to meetings, but i just couldn't do it. Im not sure why. these people have seen it all and done it all. It shouldn't be a big deal. But men do see you in different ways. woman are more accepting than males imo. I'm a memebr of forums.sohh.com, it's a hip hop music website and it has other types of forums too. I'm pretty open about my past experiences with men over there, and the responses have meet just nasty. Some people liek really hate me for being gay. but I like to be open over there, because it's anonymous, and no one knows me in real life.
The interesting part is that I've heard men share how they used to sell their bodies for drugs and money. Now I know there plenty of woman that pay for sex, but from the circles i've been in, I've seen men selling sex to other men for drugs/money. So When I hear a man share that he sold himself, I automatically think he's gay, or if not gay, he has had sex with men before. It could be presumptious on my part, but based on what i've seen, I have this inkling that these men selling themselves have some gay tendacies.
Oh yeah, another reason why I never came out was because me and my father used to go to meetings together, and Im not ready to come out to my parents yet. Also, my father knows a lot of NA peoples, so word would get out.
I don't trust that anonymity stuff.
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