I think that is the way it should be, each with your own lives and meet in the evening to discuss and plan the weekend. I also believe loyalty trust and honesty are required. I think it can be done. I have seen several aunts remarry only to find the second go round if you just respect one another and both give 100% it all works out. I am always worried what my family will think that I was so fooled by my ex, but the truth is they have an attitude of: "Ok, so you fell, now what are you going to do to put a smile back on your face?" I especially love one of my friends quotes: "If that was the hard part, just think of the reward coming!"
"And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years." A. lincoln