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Old 06-13-2009, 07:34 AM   #2 (permalink)
Chamabama
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Join Date: May 2009
Location: SoCal
Posts: 373
I'm out in all my social situations and mostly in my business life. I don't usually go out of my way to come out, I just use the correct gender when I'm telling my stories. I understand completely about those situations when people assume you date men. If I'm on the fence, I ususally just say, "I don't date men." Some people get it right away, some people assume I'm just not dating at the moment.

For me, it's eaiser to be out because I don't have to wonder if people will have a problem with it and I don't have to worry that I'll lose a friend if/when they find out. It weeds out the haters.

On the other hand, I live in Los Angeles, it's probably more accepted here than in smaller cities. So I certainly understand that I'm risking less.

When I am in situations that I'm not out, I find it at times to be tedious. It's hard to always be on guard. It's exhausting to hide part of who I am for fear of rejection.

I wish you the best!
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