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tommyk · 06-11-2009, 02:09 PM

Step 9 discussion? Cool... you talked me into it.

I learned a great deal about myself in step 9 because when I first started the steps I pretty much swore to myself there were only gonna be 7 steps in my program.

There was no way I was going to do steps 8 & 9, at least not honestly.

Then I started learning about ego, being humble, and making others feel good. I realized that if I accepted my part in past issues, regardless of who else was at fault in any more or lesser capacity, I 'emerged' from the memory of the situation with a calmer conscience. Peace & serenity?

And I learned that making an amends is not a sign of weakness, a surrender, or a confession, but more all about me expressing true regret for a past situation, and feeling better as a result.

Now, today, I can EASILY make an amends to someone from my past because today I am a different person, a stronger person, a person that has grown spiritually enough to earnestly WANT to make some one else feel better.

And me admitting regret for my part in something from my past isn't a hard thing to do AT ALL.

"Hey, remember back when.... remember that guy I used to be... yeah I was a real dick... well I'm not that guy anymore... if the whole situation were to do over again it sure would be different today... sorry that I caused you grief... I hope we can get through it... thanks for listening.... I feel better getting it off my chest."

Great step, very fulfilling when approached from a humble & truthful perspective.

06-11-2009, 02:09 PM	#6 (permalink)
tommyk Awaiting Email Confirmation Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 2,942	Step 9 discussion? Cool... you talked me into it. I learned a great deal about myself in step 9 because when I first started the steps I pretty much swore to myself there were only gonna be 7 steps in my program. There was no way I was going to do steps 8 & 9, at least not honestly. Then I started learning about ego, being humble, and making others feel good. I realized that if I accepted my part in past issues, regardless of who else was at fault in any more or lesser capacity, I 'emerged' from the memory of the situation with a calmer conscience. Peace & serenity? And I learned that making an amends is not a sign of weakness, a surrender, or a confession, but more all about me expressing true regret for a past situation, and feeling better as a result. Now, today, I can EASILY make an amends to someone from my past because today I am a different person, a stronger person, a person that has grown spiritually enough to earnestly WANT to make some one else feel better. And me admitting regret for my part in something from my past isn't a hard thing to do AT ALL. "Hey, remember back when.... remember that guy I used to be... yeah I was a real dick... well I'm not that guy anymore... if the whole situation were to do over again it sure would be different today... sorry that I caused you grief... I hope we can get through it... thanks for listening.... I feel better getting it off my chest." Great step, very fulfilling when approached from a humble & truthful perspective.