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Gmoney · 06-06-2009, 05:12 PM

This just happened a couple of days ago, but I found out today.

There's a woman in the rooms with 13 years clean and she was dating an addict with just under 18 months. She's a pretty big girl (5' 11'' & 230 lbs. approx) and very outspoken and aggressive. By profession, she's a bouncer at a club and a security guard. Apparently, the couple broke up and had words.

My area is pretty large and there was once 3 noon meetings daily...now there's only one and many members attend. Actually, it's now one of our largest meetings and on any given day there will be anywhere between 30 - 60 members there.

Thursday, she showed up with an unknown man and they jumped on the ex-boyfriend and knocked him out cold. The facility has given the group one week to find a new location and members are looking into what they can do. Some have mentioned banning her from meetings. I have no idea what a solution is, but if it were me that got beat up, I'd have restraining orders, orders of protection and assault charges in place.

All I can think of is whether this newer member will feel as if he is run out of the fellowship...or if he will allow fear to keep him away. What if he uses behind this? I don't know him personally, but I do know his sponsor. I hope and pray he has the support he needs right now.

Of course I do not know the specifics behind the altercation, and my other concern is how the public will perceive us and the damage we do to our reputation when we continually get thrown out of facilities. Personally, this is just more affirmation for me to avoid relationships in the rooms.

When I joined NA almost 11 years ago, there were 77 or 78 meetings in my area. Now we have 65 and most of those we lost was due to our behavior.

tflms

06-06-2009, 05:12 PM	#1 (permalink)
Gmoney Evolving Addict Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: New York State Posts: 2,910	We got kicked out again! This just happened a couple of days ago, but I found out today. There's a woman in the rooms with 13 years clean and she was dating an addict with just under 18 months. She's a pretty big girl (5' 11'' & 230 lbs. approx) and very outspoken and aggressive. By profession, she's a bouncer at a club and a security guard. Apparently, the couple broke up and had words. My area is pretty large and there was once 3 noon meetings daily...now there's only one and many members attend. Actually, it's now one of our largest meetings and on any given day there will be anywhere between 30 - 60 members there. Thursday, she showed up with an unknown man and they jumped on the ex-boyfriend and knocked him out cold. The facility has given the group one week to find a new location and members are looking into what they can do. Some have mentioned banning her from meetings. I have no idea what a solution is, but if it were me that got beat up, I'd have restraining orders, orders of protection and assault charges in place. All I can think of is whether this newer member will feel as if he is run out of the fellowship...or if he will allow fear to keep him away. What if he uses behind this? I don't know him personally, but I do know his sponsor. I hope and pray he has the support he needs right now. Of course I do not know the specifics behind the altercation, and my other concern is how the public will perceive us and the damage we do to our reputation when we continually get thrown out of facilities. Personally, this is just more affirmation for me to avoid relationships in the rooms. When I joined NA almost 11 years ago, there were 77 or 78 meetings in my area. Now we have 65 and most of those we lost was due to our behavior. tflms __________________ "We are never forced into relapse. We are given a choice. Relapse is never an accident." - Basic Text, 5th Ed.