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Time2Surrender · 06-05-2009, 02:07 AM

I dated women in the rooms for 10 years. Yesterday I took a 90 day key tag. Today I cannot go to a meeting without at least one ex girlfriend being there. Sometimes 4 or 5. I have been in some sick relationships. Mostly on my part. I have been taking a look at my choices in the past. For the last 10 years these were the requirments to date me........

Unemployed
No car
No drivers license (preferably suspended with fines owed)
On probation (preferably behind on fees)
Still married but seperated
Has kids (preferably more than two)
Homeless
On medication

Those are the women I would attract. Usually I would look for ALL of the above and end up allowing them to move in with me within the first month. For some reason these relationships NEVER worked? Go figure. Why did I keep attracting these women? Could it be cause I NEVER took the time to work on myself? Healthy people dont attract people like that. For now I am single. I dont date. I am also happy today. I am working the steps with a new sponsor and working on myself. But, when I reach a point to allow someone in my life, it will NOT be someone from the rooms of AA/NA. No way. Been there, done that.

06-05-2009, 02:07 AM	#2 (permalink)
Time2Surrender Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Washington State Posts: 7,263 Blog Entries: 7	I dated women in the rooms for 10 years. Yesterday I took a 90 day key tag. Today I cannot go to a meeting without at least one ex girlfriend being there. Sometimes 4 or 5. I have been in some sick relationships. Mostly on my part. I have been taking a look at my choices in the past. For the last 10 years these were the requirments to date me........ Unemployed No car No drivers license (preferably suspended with fines owed) On probation (preferably behind on fees) Still married but seperated Has kids (preferably more than two) Homeless On medication Those are the women I would attract. Usually I would look for ALL of the above and end up allowing them to move in with me within the first month. For some reason these relationships NEVER worked? Go figure. Why did I keep attracting these women? Could it be cause I NEVER took the time to work on myself? Healthy people dont attract people like that. For now I am single. I dont date. I am also happy today. I am working the steps with a new sponsor and working on myself. But, when I reach a point to allow someone in my life, it will NOT be someone from the rooms of AA/NA. No way. Been there, done that.