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wowsers...i can so identify with that. It's like you get drawn into the web and stuck, thinking you're trying to "be there" for the loved one then frustrated when you get pushback because you're controlling the finances etc. Knowing that if you give a chunk of money for things like groceries, gas, etc. the chances are that alot of it will go to drugs. When you're the sole breadwinner, how do you balance that kind of stuff out when you've tried to be trusting with household funds only to see it get used for non-household things so you really aren't controlling? Do you take on the added responsibility of the groceries, gas and other miscellaneous or just make sure that any amount that could be funneled for a "use" will at worse result in an empty tank of gas that will mean the loved one will have to find an alternative way for transportation. Guilty as charged for alot of the enabling but trying to find a better way to let her do what she's gonna do and not get tied into the manipulation that goes along to try and feed the addiction?
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