[Astro]

Joan, I'm sure someone will come along with some experience in this area, and I'm hoping it will be with compassion rather than "stern words".

You mentioned that your son is getting food assistance, cash assistance, shelter, and medical coverage, yet he comes to you almost every day for money? I know you're trying to be helpful, and I think it's great to reach out and help someone, but that's assuming that they're willing to help themselves too. For the time being, I think it's a good idea that you not meet with him alone.

There's a difference between loving and caring for someone, and enabling them. If we don't take care of ourselves and our interests first, we're not capable of assisting those we love in a healthy manner.

The way I see it, you are making progress by posting here and using your support systems. Be gentle on yourself, recovery can be a long process, rest assured that you're moving forward.