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Originally Posted by mle-sober  "It is her drinking not biploar that is causing her so much grief."
No, honey, it is both. They go hand in hand.
I couldn't get my drinking under control until I was properly medicated and stable. The right medication had to come first. Then it took me another 9 months to slowly and painfully accept that I'm an alcoholic.
My bipolar issue is a MUCH larger issue in my life than my drinking. My drinking is something that, once I accepted it, surrendered, and got help, I can manage. I've been sober for 16 months.
But my bipolar acts on it's own accord. I can get enough sleep, take my meds, exercise and eat well and I will still have episodes.
You can't really separate them very easily at the beginning. Saying one is the problem and not the other is erroneous.
I reiterate that your sister needs your support to get better medicated. If you could be an advocate for her health, perhaps she'd let you speak to her prescriber so that you could give them a more accurate picture of her health. Actually, you can always call and give your side of what it looks like. And ask the prescriber to be discreet with the fact you called.... |
I see what your saying. I guess I am wanting to find something to blame. She is just soo smart and she is an RN so I keep wanting to think she can somehow help it. Mostly because she is a nurse, she herself should or I would think understand her illness better than anyone. Thinking if she wouldn't drink and take her meds she would be "normal". I am slowly understanding even doing everything in her power to medicate and stop the drinking she would still have episodes. But also thinking they might not be as severe and as long or even as many if she was trying to help herself and quit drinking.
It just seems so overwhelming and her outrages are causing so much turmoil in the family. If I was tell of her last episode it doesn't even seem real how she blew up and the circumstances. Seems to be a "last straw" for others in the fam. I can't just block her off my list. Wanting so bad to understand and needing the right words to talk to her. Everyone is avoiding her, no one is taking her calls. She knows we are all tired of her outbursts, she senses something and I hate not being able to talk to her.
I don't know, maybe I will try to figure out who her doc is and secretly somehow get a number. Make that call and maybe he/she can give the fam suggestions of how to cope and deal with her situation.
Thanks for your help in understanding
