[MCake]

I can relate, on some level. I don't do the steps, but I know that the fellowships recommend waiting for a year etc, but... know what? There's always *something*. At least in my experience, and to be honest with myself and others, I admit that I have repeatedly passed on perfectly good opportunities to establish what could have been nice relationships; there was always an excuse: first I drank too much, then I was too sober, later I had "issues" to work on, blah blah blah.

Nobody is perfect. And, by all means, if you don't feel ready to date, then don't. But... I can't help wondering why the idea of loving another person seems so frightening, at least to me. I'm being blunt, and I'm probably hijacking your thread by putting my own musings out there. Just do whatever feels right when and if the situation presents itself