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grateful2b · 05-27-2009, 07:14 AM

Here is the link to part 4:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...rt-4-a-20.html (Codependency and Beyond Part 4)

You are reading from The Language Of Letting Go by Melody Beattie

May 27

Recognizing Choices

We have choices, more choices than we let ourselves see.

We may feel trapped in our relationships, our jobs, our life. We may feel locked into behaviors - such as caretaking or controlling.

Feeling trapped is a symptom of codependency. when we hear ourselves say, "I have to take care of this person...." " I have to try to control that person..."

"I have to behave this way, think this way, feel this way...."

We can know we are choosing not to see choices.

That sense of being trapped is an illusion. We are not controlled by circumstances, our past, the expectations of others, what feels right for us, without guilt. We have options.

Recovery is not about behaving perfectly or according to anyone else's rules. More than anything else, recovery is about knowing we have choices and giving ourselves the freedom to choose.

Today, I will open my thinking and myself to the choices available to me. I will make choices that are good for me.

05-27-2009, 07:14 AM	#1 (permalink)
grateful2b Leap of Faith Survivor Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 4,556	Codependency and Beyond Part 5 Here is the link to part 4: http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...rt-4-a-20.html (Codependency and Beyond Part 4) You are reading from The Language Of Letting Go by Melody Beattie May 27 Recognizing Choices We have choices, more choices than we let ourselves see. We may feel trapped in our relationships, our jobs, our life. We may feel locked into behaviors - such as caretaking or controlling. Feeling trapped is a symptom of codependency. when we hear ourselves say, "I have to take care of this person...." " I have to try to control that person..." "I have to behave this way, think this way, feel this way...." We can know we are choosing not to see choices. That sense of being trapped is an illusion. We are not controlled by circumstances, our past, the expectations of others, what feels right for us, without guilt. We have options. Recovery is not about behaving perfectly or according to anyone else's rules. More than anything else, recovery is about knowing we have choices and giving ourselves the freedom to choose. Today, I will open my thinking and myself to the choices available to me. I will make choices that are good for me. __________________ You need to give up the life you have in order to have the life that is waiting for you.