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Originally Posted by soozers  i guess this leads to the next question...does regular drinking necessarily mean unhealthy drinking? i really don't know, because in my experience it didn't. and i can say, freedom1990, that we were probably both unhealthy as individuals before we met, so does it mean this cannot be changed? of course, there is the tendency to caretake, to enable, be codependent...but can it be changed? |
All I can share is my own experience, and as I stated earlier, I contined to seek relationships with unhealthy men. The end result was me throwing 4 years of recovery out the window.
When I relapsed, I was dating a fellow who was involved in 12 step programs, two years clean. He started going down the tubes, relapsed, and despite the warnings from all the people in recovery who cared about me, I was determined to stick it out with him. The end result was I relapsed too.
Recovery is a full-time job for me, and I don't need the added burden of being involved with someone who
isn't healthy for me and my recovery.
Maybe you can. I don't know.