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123bubblegum123 · 05-22-2009, 08:32 AM

Chasin,

I absolutely love what you shared about connecting with old clean friends. Any time I have any sort of catastrophe - especially pertaining to the male gender - I lean on my girl friends for major support. I would highly suggest you do the same, and open yourself, and this difficult sitation, up to your close friends for extra support. The less you lean on your dark/unhealthy/using/jobless/dependent (well, you get it) boyfriend, the better you will feel. Your main concern is YOUR sobriety, and anything that may threaten it has got to go. Early sobriety is certainly a challange, and sure, having a sober buddy/friend to go through it with can be awesome, BUT you cannot control his behavior and you have to make it clear to him that if he continues using, the only thing he can be sure of is losing you. You'll still care about him, just from a safe distance.

Please feel free to lean on me for support on here! Message me any time and I really hope you've gotten through the past few days safely.

Rachel

05-22-2009, 08:32 AM	#4 (permalink)
123bubblegum123 it's a movie, you're the star Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 356	Chasin, I absolutely love what you shared about connecting with old clean friends. Any time I have any sort of catastrophe - especially pertaining to the male gender - I lean on my girl friends for major support. I would highly suggest you do the same, and open yourself, and this difficult sitation, up to your close friends for extra support. The less you lean on your dark/unhealthy/using/jobless/dependent (well, you get it) boyfriend, the better you will feel. Your main concern is YOUR sobriety, and anything that may threaten it has got to go. Early sobriety is certainly a challange, and sure, having a sober buddy/friend to go through it with can be awesome, BUT you cannot control his behavior and you have to make it clear to him that if he continues using, the only thing he can be sure of is losing you. You'll still care about him, just from a safe distance. Please feel free to lean on me for support on here! Message me any time and I really hope you've gotten through the past few days safely. Rachel __________________ i'm just a little girl with big dreams.