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***Morning Glory*** · 05-17-2009, 01:05 PM

Acceptance and Hope are the final stages of grief. You are in the beginning stages of grief. I don't see it as a choice. I see it as a process. If your leg is broken you don't choose to get up and walk until your leg is healed. Grief is a process of healing.

SHOCK & DENIAL
PAIN & GUILT
ANGER & BARGAINING
DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS
THE UPWARD TURN
RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH
ACCEPTANCE & HOPE

Many of us who are parents and arrived on the forums had a lot of time to process our child's addiction and come to the point of acceptance with their addiction. We came here and learned all we could about addiction and got a lot of support from others.

Ryan was very young and not only are you having to try to process and accept his addiction, but you are also having to process the grief from his death from addiction at the same time. It has only been 5 months since his death and in my opinion you are entering the hardest time of grief. The shock and disbelief start to wear off and you are hit fully with heartbreaking loss.

I am very sorry that you have to go through this. You will see light again in time, but not just yet. It will take time.

Lots of hugs

05-17-2009, 01:05 PM	#6 (permalink)
*Morning Glory* Administrator Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: CA Posts: 9,968 Blog Entries: 2	Acceptance and Hope are the final stages of grief. You are in the beginning stages of grief. I don't see it as a choice. I see it as a process. If your leg is broken you don't choose to get up and walk until your leg is healed. Grief is a process of healing. SHOCK & DENIAL PAIN & GUILT ANGER & BARGAINING DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS THE UPWARD TURN RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH ACCEPTANCE & HOPE Many of us who are parents and arrived on the forums had a lot of time to process our child's addiction and come to the point of acceptance with their addiction. We came here and learned all we could about addiction and got a lot of support from others. Ryan was very young and not only are you having to try to process and accept his addiction, but you are also having to process the grief from his death from addiction at the same time. It has only been 5 months since his death and in my opinion you are entering the hardest time of grief. The shock and disbelief start to wear off and you are hit fully with heartbreaking loss. I am very sorry that you have to go through this. You will see light again in time, but not just yet. It will take time. Lots of hugs __________________ “Come to the edge.” “We can't. We're afraid.” “Come to the edge.” “We can't. We will fall!” “Come to the edge.” And they came. And he pushed them. And they flew. Guillaume Apollinaire, 1880-1918

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