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One of the first things my therapist taught me about communication is to keep it about me. Telling him he is a bad person may make you feel better in the short term, but it's really just a point you and he disagree on. I doubt he thinks he is a bad person and you telling him that only diminishes you.
On the other hand, if you feel you must tell him something, then I urge you to keep it about you. Something like "I am growing in new ways and the lifestyle we had together is no longer something I want." It may not feel as good as a jab in the short term, but in the long term it preserves your dignity and integrity. After all, he is free to be whoever he wants to be. And you are free to choose who you share your time with.
L
P.S. It's a lot less likely to provoke an argument or angry reaction if it's simply about you.
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