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nowwhat · 05-13-2009, 04:45 PM

Yes, by text.

The kids know the vacation is off but I haven't told them that X and I are not going to be seeing each other any more.

Yes, we will do something else fun instead.

I am waiting for an opening to tell the X that no, I won't be his friend and the reason is that I no longer think he is a good person. He is so selfish and self-serving that he will no doubt try to contact me again.

It may be stupid of me, but I want him to know that. He is so full of himself that he probably thinks he was very kind to me, and he wasn't. He showed no regret or compassion in the post mortem of the relationship after TWO YEARS of telling me I am the love of his life. He is icy cold.

I don't have any illusion that my saying anything will influence his thinking--but since reflecting on all this a bit, I've realized just what a POS he is. There are some things that he said while we were breaking up (the second long conversation) that were so manipulative and disgusting, demeaning really, but I was passive and still gushing about my "love" for him.

I don't feel any "love" at this point. A bit of anger, a lot of disgust, no more confusion.

I just want him to know that I don't think he is a good person, or someone I will ever want to have any kind of friendship with.

I have felt pretty fantastic this week for the most part. Light as a feather.

05-13-2009, 04:45 PM	#3 (permalink)
nowwhat Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 211	Yes, by text. The kids know the vacation is off but I haven't told them that X and I are not going to be seeing each other any more. Yes, we will do something else fun instead. I am waiting for an opening to tell the X that no, I won't be his friend and the reason is that I no longer think he is a good person. He is so selfish and self-serving that he will no doubt try to contact me again. It may be stupid of me, but I want him to know that. He is so full of himself that he probably thinks he was very kind to me, and he wasn't. He showed no regret or compassion in the post mortem of the relationship after TWO YEARS of telling me I am the love of his life. He is icy cold. I don't have any illusion that my saying anything will influence his thinking--but since reflecting on all this a bit, I've realized just what a POS he is. There are some things that he said while we were breaking up (the second long conversation) that were so manipulative and disgusting, demeaning really, but I was passive and still gushing about my "love" for him. I don't feel any "love" at this point. A bit of anger, a lot of disgust, no more confusion. I just want him to know that I don't think he is a good person, or someone I will ever want to have any kind of friendship with. I have felt pretty fantastic this week for the most part. Light as a feather.