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This is all new to me. I never dreamed I would be married to an addict. We lived together for a year before we got married. He had a job but was laid off. After several months I began to notice his extreme mood shifts. One day he would say " I Love You" a hundred times. He was clingy too. The next day or three, he would barely acknowledge me. This went on for a while.
I began to find these little straws hidden in his pockets or tucked away. Of course I asked him about it. He said he didn't know why he was did it, but it wouldn't happen again. He later began to have money that he didn't work for. I was going to work every day while he was home getting unemployment . But, not that much unemployment.
I questioned him again. Lies. I am not stupid. I taped his phone conversations for two days. He was dealing. I confronted him again. He says he has stopped. I still find the straws sometimes.
I haven't said anything else to him because I know he will just lie. I am just now beginning to decide that he is an addict. I am 43 years old, he is 32. I really have led a sheltered life. I drank a little in highschool but drugs never seemed to cross my path. My mom had my sister and I pretty well under control. My own kids aged 24 and 22 are happily married and are doing well. I have never faced thses things before. I am afraid of screwing up. I want to help him see what this behavior could cost us. I love him.
I am an LPN. I have seen his labwork. His liver is damaged. He has been doing this much longer than I realised, probably since before we got together. For some reason, it has escalated. The lying, it just kills me. You believe you are on the same page with someone you love. The you find out he has a whole secret life. He doesn't think it has anything to do with me. I think, if he is looking me in the face and lying abouth this, then, whats next?
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