[aasharon90]

It takes time to regain the trust we lost
from those close to us. Esp. family members.

They r the ones that live with us and see us
on a daily bases. They see our actions and
hear our words.

It's not just the fact of not drinking anymore.


We have been given 12 steps and principles
set down before us to LIVE by. We live them
in our everyday affairs.

Did you say new wife? Did she know about ur
drinking habits before u wed? Or did u stop
just enough to let her see u sober for a time?

Did she see one side of you and now the other?

My first husband and i drank when we dated. I
more so than he. He nor i had any clue as to the
extent of my drinking until my behavior said it all.

I would use excuses to leave the house just so
i could drink more. Reason being he was a "normie".

7 yrs of drinking and martial problems then family
stepped in with an intervention doing for me what i
couldnt do for myself.

I went into a 28day rehab recieveing the tools and
knowledge of my disease od alcoholism . To learn
to live one day at a time following the suggestions
by others to guide me.

I went to many many meetings listening and obsorbing
all that i could from others that had managed to
stay sober for a many ODAAT.

I continued on my journey changing along the way
and leaving my family puzzeled at what had happened
to me.

There were programs available for them if needed and
yet they werent the ones sick.

My 25 yr marriage recently ended due to many reasons
but one in particular was due to lack of understanding
me and my recovery.

Im remarried to someone in recovery. Our marriage
is based on trust and honesty. A 12 step program
and faith in a Power greater than us to guide us every
step of the way.

There r no secrets and that has allowed us to live
happy joyous and free.