SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information - View Single Post

saved · 04-27-2009, 07:26 AM

I am the father of two sons who have an alcoholic mom. As my ex-wife, I still have to deal with her and habitual falsehoods. She is allegedly on a 12 step AA walk stopping long enough at step 9 to say "I am making amends. Sorry about that. See ya." She abandoned the children when they were 6 and 8 year old boys. She wrecked our home physically and stole property. She owes over $10,000 in loans for taxes and unpaid bills. $60,000 in child support goes unpaid and unrecognized. She gets a AA coin and moves on. We are left with the broken pieces and economic calamity.

Step 9 is an amusing concept to us. It's as if she is establishing cred with her AA pals while continuing to dump on her children.
I wonder what she is telling her sponsor and AA group? I hear she is running a group.

I do not drink or do drugs, so I do not get it. I know for the grace of God, I would be an addict. So, I do not condemn at risk of being condemned. But, this step 9 just seems like some "you done well lying to yourself and others. Here's a coin. Go to step 10."

04-27-2009, 07:26 AM	#2 (permalink)
saved Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: East of Eden Posts: 10	I am the father of two sons who have an alcoholic mom. As my ex-wife, I still have to deal with her and habitual falsehoods. She is allegedly on a 12 step AA walk stopping long enough at step 9 to say "I am making amends. Sorry about that. See ya." She abandoned the children when they were 6 and 8 year old boys. She wrecked our home physically and stole property. She owes over $10,000 in loans for taxes and unpaid bills. $60,000 in child support goes unpaid and unrecognized. She gets a AA coin and moves on. We are left with the broken pieces and economic calamity. Step 9 is an amusing concept to us. It's as if she is establishing cred with her AA pals while continuing to dump on her children. I wonder what she is telling her sponsor and AA group? I hear she is running a group. I do not drink or do drugs, so I do not get it. I know for the grace of God, I would be an addict. So, I do not condemn at risk of being condemned. But, this step 9 just seems like some "you done well lying to yourself and others. Here's a coin. Go to step 10."