This rocky marriage has gone from bad to worse since I started AA.
My wife is all on the blame game for her own failures, depression. She's got a lot of boiling anger in herself to the point of ridiculous! This has led me to go back to drinking. In a turnabout she then blames me for drinking. I wasn't bad but I wasn't great either and I just liked my escape from a rocky marriage that started about 3 1/2 years ago.
Then she started going to Al Anon which I thought she must be serious about it. So, I started going to AA fellowship, read self-help books, and working on the 12 steps which helps me see hope.
And now, she blames me going to AA! Say what!? Yes, this absurd! She doesn't even remember our first 8 good years of our relationship. Just when she started going to Al Anon so she could learn to deal with me, only then to get angry just because I'm about ready to quit drinking (crossing my finger at this very minute for another minute here). I'm so sick her her telling me "your job affects me...it affects me...your drinking affect me...oh Al Anon told me that you were going to blame me". So, I ask her just as her counselor did, "So, what do you want"...only to respond with blank stares and a shrug on her shoulder.
She is already on her Rx and has two counselors and it's not working! It's been about 2 years since she hit rock button and has yet to improve. No matter what I say, at the slight opinion or better-than-her idea, she is so quick in judgment and blames me again for suppressing her thoughts. This isn't healthy for my recovery.
I want a divorce.
Howard