Rob this is what the BB says:
We reviewed our own conduct over the years past.
What do they mean by conduct? Actual sex, or relationships?
Where had we been selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate? Whom had we hurt?
How do I know what is material for this step or not? I've had plenty of guys tell me they were hurt after I stopped dating them. I don't feel bad about it. The whole point of dating is to find out if you are compatible with someone. If you're not, you move on.
Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy, suspicion or bitterness?
I don't know what this means. How would I know what someone else is feeling and whether it's justifiable or not.
Where were we at fault, what should we have done instead? We got this all down on paper and looked at it.
In this way, we tried to shape a sane and sound ideal for our future sex life.
Again, are they talking about just sex, or actual entire relationships? This is very confusing to me.
We subjected each relation to the this test - was it selfish or not?
What do they mean by relation?
My sponsor said I would understand it if I started writing things down, but I don't. I simply don't understand the instructions.