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I know we're talking about recovery but it reminds me of when a kid gets, say, a C in a class or on an exam and says he did the best he could, but his parents say.. "no you didn't..you can do better". But thats why we have grades in the first place. I mean, some people are just better than others. Not everyone can get an A+ in physics...not everyone can in recovery either.
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But there are no gradations to recovery - it's a simple yes/no, I will/I won't, I can/I can't dichotomy.
I think anyone can recover - and I've yet to see anyone who has lead me to doubt that assertion.
Some people take longer to reach that point, and some never do, but it's not a question of competence or talent. The first and fundamental plank is...don't use.
You're right in that motivation is involved... but if we're lucky we all find that...if not before, we find it when we've drank and drugged to 'enough' and haven't killed ourselves or damaged ourselves beyond repair.
I have intelligence and stubborness and foresight...and all the things you would think would be a help...but I was a D student in recovery for many years, because what I really wanted was to be an A student in the 'drinking normally' class, or later, I wanted a 'special credit' for finding my own special solution.
It was only when I realised, finally, that these two things weren't possible, I gave my all to recovery....and had success
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