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It seems to me that people use that line more as a coping mechanism for the guilt and shame they inevitably know will ensue if they have nothing else to rely on. I believe that most people know that they could've done better but for whatever reason they did not. The reason for why they did not is where the answer lies. That is where the self discovery is to be had. I think the behaviors need to be excused rather than revisited so as to avoid the possibility of more shame and guilt. The person should look forward to greater effort in their endeavors based on what they have learned from looking into the reasons for not doing better than they could have. People should realize the times when the pressure is on and say to themselves, "I've been here before." Perhaps then they can gain perspective and allow for something positive to happen. This way is just one way. But it could be THE way for many who struggle with their recovery because of shame and guilt. Self forgiveness is a powerful thing.
Thanks Freya.
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