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That was a good post freya. It shows that you really hold everyone to a high standard because you believe in them. I know to defend my actions I've said "I'm doing the best I can", but if I keep on doing those same actions it starts looking like an excuse. Now, I just don't say it.
Unfortunately, some people's best won't be enough. Some people are just motivated more than others. And although you're right we shouldn't let our past control our future, some people are just better at getting over past events and not letting their emotions get the better of them.
I know we're talking about recovery but it reminds me of when a kid gets, say, a C in a class or on an exam and says he did the best he could, but his parents say.. "no you didn't..you can do better". But thats why we have grades in the first place. I mean, some people are just better than others. Not everyone can get an A+ in physics...not everyone can in recovery either.
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"If there is no struggle, there is no progress. Those who profess to favor freedom, and yet depreciate agitation, are men who want crops without plowing up the ground. They want rain without thunder and lightening." Frederick Douglass
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