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cinderella8 · 04-10-2009, 09:38 AM

Mark and I have been living together for ten years in my home owned by just me. Together we own another home out of state.

On monday he brought home his oxy kid? of 29 yo,to give him a fresh start after five years of downhill slide.They went to the doctor for suboxone and he has gone to a NA everynite this week.

I feel seething that this arrangement was not discussed. In the past when it was brought up, I said NO, NO, NO to his kid? coming to our home. Holidays, weekends fine.

Our impromptu meeting was basically kid? telling me he was trying and me telling him one single iota screw up and i would show him door - my house - my rules. His father and him asked for six weeks, which i submitted to under duress

His father gets up now at 5 in the am, drives kid to work, works himself, and then picks kid up, home for dinner and meeting.

The kid? has the usual, court dates, no DL probably for a year, piles of bills. I feel like dad has now supplied lovely home, taxi service, and three squares a day. Is this enabling? Even if for only six weeks.

I guess this time, because he is following a program, i have to bite the bullet. I am still seething, have clammed up, feeling like a prisoner in my own home.

Of course, I have put locks on bedroom and office, removed all jewelry from home and locked all booze in closet. I go to bed at night and dont feel comfortable. Basically when he is in the house, I dont feel comfortable. I dont know what to expect in my own home.

After ten years of a good relationship, i hear the death knell. Logic tells me a father would save a drowning son first in a boat - remember this!

I feel like i dont have a sympathetic bone in my body. I feel like screaming I DID NOT MAKE OR CONTRIBUTE TO THIS MESS - Why do i have it in my home?

Can someone call me on it or give me insight.

Some small part of me says TRY for his sake.

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cinderella8 Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: snohomish Posts: 6	Steaming Mad !$%# Mark and I have been living together for ten years in my home owned by just me. Together we own another home out of state. On monday he brought home his oxy kid? of 29 yo,to give him a fresh start after five years of downhill slide.They went to the doctor for suboxone and he has gone to a NA everynite this week. I feel seething that this arrangement was not discussed. In the past when it was brought up, I said NO, NO, NO to his kid? coming to our home. Holidays, weekends fine. Our impromptu meeting was basically kid? telling me he was trying and me telling him one single iota screw up and i would show him door - my house - my rules. His father and him asked for six weeks, which i submitted to under duress His father gets up now at 5 in the am, drives kid to work, works himself, and then picks kid up, home for dinner and meeting. The kid? has the usual, court dates, no DL probably for a year, piles of bills. I feel like dad has now supplied lovely home, taxi service, and three squares a day. Is this enabling? Even if for only six weeks. I guess this time, because he is following a program, i have to bite the bullet. I am still seething, have clammed up, feeling like a prisoner in my own home. Of course, I have put locks on bedroom and office, removed all jewelry from home and locked all booze in closet. I go to bed at night and dont feel comfortable. Basically when he is in the house, I dont feel comfortable. I dont know what to expect in my own home. After ten years of a good relationship, i hear the death knell. Logic tells me a father would save a drowning son first in a boat - remember this! I feel like i dont have a sympathetic bone in my body. I feel like screaming I DID NOT MAKE OR CONTRIBUTE TO THIS MESS - Why do i have it in my home? Can someone call me on it or give me insight. Some small part of me says TRY for his sake.