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Originally Posted by justtired  My bf told me that he talked to his doctor about going on suboxone because it was something he can do to "calm my fears".
I'm not really sure if this is even a good thing if he doesn't really want to get the help for himself. |
This is what worries me, my friend. Very manipulative statement by your bf. Doing something to "calm your fears" WTF!!!! Of course you already know that isn't going to work if he doesn't want this help for himself. He's manipulating you by saying, in essence "I am not an addict. You are a crazy codie, but I'll go get these shut-up pills and take 'em to shut you up." If you fall for this line of cr@p, you are going to be disapointed.
Suboxone treatment works only for those of us (and I am one) who are totally done with getting high. On everything. And willing to completely commit to treatment. It isn't just a fix-it-all pill you take. I had to stop taking all other meds and drinking. I had to be willing to do exactly what your doctor tells you every day. Take exactly correct doses. Go to appointments on time, every time. Take no other opiates at all, ever. Stop getting high and drunk. Attend NA or AA meetings daily for a while. Get a sponsor. Get a network. Call the network. Do stepwork. Live the program.
Suboxone isn't a magic pill. It won't work for him if his current level of commitment is as you stated, to make you happy. You need to stay out of it and let him hit bottom for him to have any hope of getting into recovery. The best thing you can do is to get out of the way. If that means you need to leave him for your peace of mind because it is too painful to watch, I would totally understand. It's hard to watch an addict in denial.
Love,
KJ