[nandm]

Welcome to SR and our mental health forum.

She is fortunate to have someone who cares about her like you do even if she can not see it right now.

From the perspective of a person with bipolar disease, I can say I was not able to accept the disease for a long time. It took getting sober before I was able to accept that there was something wrong with my perception of the world not within the world itself. I don't know if that makes any sense at all but hope it does. I was actually quite relieved when I was finally honest enough with my doctor (family practice physician) who diagnosed me as possibly bipolar and referred me to a psychiatrist for treatment. Today although it is a struggle right now and periodically I am better knowing about my disease and having the hope that with treatment I might be able to live a somewhat "normal" life.

I don't think the book is expensive so it might be worth the try sending it. The worst thing she could do is be angry at you and throw it away. The best things she could do is be angry at you intially but have the curiosity to pick the book up. If she is truly bipolar she will have no problem relating to the book and probably be relieved to find out there is a solution. That in turn might cause her to be grateful for your help. Either way if you do send the book, I would recommend not sending it with expectations but send it and let it go. Then what happens, happens even if it is nothing.

Take care and keep us posted.