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Chauncy · 03-23-2009, 03:15 AM

Quick breakdown: I've been clean for a few years and she's been clean for a bit over a month. There's a very strong connection between the two of us that neither of us have ever felt before. Up until now, I've never even considered dating someone new. While I'm aware that there's a possibility that I may be wrong about the situation, I've talked with other addicts and thoroughly examined my motives and it certainly seems genuine. We've decided to wait until we both feel that we're ready, however long that may be. We've also taken a step back to take the space and time we both need to focus on our recovery. We only see and talk to each other about once a week at a meeting.
So I'm asking for anyone's experience regarding getting involved with a newcomer in any similar fashion. What were the circumstances, how did you deal with it, and what was the outcome? And I'm well aware that the common opinion is to never date a newcomer, so please don't respond with "Don't date a newcomer!" or anything of the sort. I'm looking for some significant and thoughtful responses.

Thanks in advance.

03-23-2009, 03:15 AM	#1 (permalink)
Chauncy Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 7	Dating a newcomer Quick breakdown: I've been clean for a few years and she's been clean for a bit over a month. There's a very strong connection between the two of us that neither of us have ever felt before. Up until now, I've never even considered dating someone new. While I'm aware that there's a possibility that I may be wrong about the situation, I've talked with other addicts and thoroughly examined my motives and it certainly seems genuine. We've decided to wait until we both feel that we're ready, however long that may be. We've also taken a step back to take the space and time we both need to focus on our recovery. We only see and talk to each other about once a week at a meeting. So I'm asking for anyone's experience regarding getting involved with a newcomer in any similar fashion. What were the circumstances, how did you deal with it, and what was the outcome? And I'm well aware that the common opinion is to never date a newcomer, so please don't respond with "Don't date a newcomer!" or anything of the sort. I'm looking for some significant and thoughtful responses. Thanks in advance.