So I've started my first book about Alcoholism. I'm trying to find out everything I can about this disease...I'm almost addicted to knowledge.
Lastnight I was skimming through this book and I started reading about Stage I, II and III of Alcoholism. I've decided my XABF is certainly in Stage III. The physical characteristics alone were huge red flags waving in the breeze!
Then you add in the social aspects: In trouble with the law, with finances, failed relationships, DUI's,.....etc....
My question is this....
How is it possible to not recognize that alcohol or drug addiction is what is causing your problem? From my own perspective I realized my life was becoming unmanageable, but didn't really have a clue that it might have had anything to do with our drug and alcohol abuse. I dug myself deep in a hole of debt because of my enabling. How is it possible an alcoholic does not recognize this in their own life? That maybe their activities are causing their hardship??? My XABF still continues to play the blame game.....
"You left because you wanted to, it would seem you made
poor choices too"
"I'm horribly nauseous today"
"A beer is the best cure for a hangover"
"Don't make meatloaf for awhile.....it gave me terrible stomach problems"
"I've been kicking and screaming since the day I was born."
"I work so hard, and this is what I get for it."
If anyone has any insight at all on this, it would be greatly appreciated.....