Dear SoCopasetic,
Hugs to you, and your daughter.
Could you seek out a local Nar-Anon group and ask them if there are any grief support groups in your locale for people grieving substance abusers? I've found that finding true peers, especially in the grieving process, helps an incredible amount.
The only way past grief is through it, so finding a support group where you feel understood, and where you could eventually talk out your grief and get it processed, would really facilitate getting through the process. It is individual to each person.
I especially remember a great quote that helped me:
We grieve alone, but we heal in community.
This board is lighter traffic than most. If you post in the
friends and family of substance abusers, you will get an outpouring of support from them, and many of them have experienced the death of a loved addict. They just tend to hang out over there, on that board, because there is more traffic. It would be fine for you to bring this topic up on that board, too.
I am so sorry for your loss, and your family's pain,
CLMI