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Marigolds · 03-10-2009, 09:37 AM

I am thinking about today's One Day at a Time -

Today's Reminder: It is not the alcoholic who is my responsibility. My Job is to do something about my own faults, my own part in the mess our life has become. Can I admit that my own irrational behavior helped to create the mess? I am sure I will realize it in time, with the help of Al-Anon.

I know I have tons of faults of my own, I am having a hard figuring out how I contributed to the mess - Maybe in the early days I should have put my foot down or left.

I have a lot of anxiety and depression and it's sort of a chicken and egg thing - which came first? I am sure my anxiety/depression contributed to his drinking, but so did his drinking to my anxiety/depression. How do I put an end to the vicious cycle?

Anyway, I'm new to al-anon. I so want to get it. I read and hear all the time that the only one I can change is myself - I just need to figure out what my problem is. I honestly don't know how to examine myself.

I'd love to hear how you actually took charge and figured out what to fix in your life.

03-10-2009, 09:37 AM	#1 (permalink)
Marigolds Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 36	How did we help create this mess? I am thinking about today's One Day at a Time - Today's Reminder: It is not the alcoholic who is my responsibility. My Job is to do something about my own faults, my own part in the mess our life has become. Can I admit that my own irrational behavior helped to create the mess? I am sure I will realize it in time, with the help of Al-Anon. I know I have tons of faults of my own, I am having a hard figuring out how I contributed to the mess - Maybe in the early days I should have put my foot down or left. I have a lot of anxiety and depression and it's sort of a chicken and egg thing - which came first? I am sure my anxiety/depression contributed to his drinking, but so did his drinking to my anxiety/depression. How do I put an end to the vicious cycle? Anyway, I'm new to al-anon. I so want to get it. I read and hear all the time that the only one I can change is myself - I just need to figure out what my problem is. I honestly don't know how to examine myself. I'd love to hear how you actually took charge and figured out what to fix in your life.